Monday, 14 July 2014

Life after lust – the appeal of sexless marriage | Life and style | The Guardian

Life after lust – the appeal of sexless marriage | Life and style | The Guardian: "Everyone – sigh – knows the drill: schedule it in; push through the repulsion/exhaustion/irritation barrier; engage in some roleplay; use it or lose it. But after one's broken the novelty shower-cap rule (I've got a cow and a frog one, you?), after one has spent 15-20 years cohabiting with the same perfectly delightful, perfectly attractive person, seeing them walk nude around the house about five million times, it can feel, frankly, a little … inappropriate. There's a reason, in other words, why kids retch at the idea of their parents doing it.

Oh dear. I might be out on a very long limb here. But there comes a stage in any relationship when the prospect of ordering your breakfast together the night before becomes far more the point of a saucy weekend minibreak than does the prospect of uninterrupted bonking. As Alain de Botton observes in his latest self-help manual, How to Think More About Sex, it was not until the 18th century that the idea of a love-based marriage took hold. The idea of sex being the cornerstone of a marriage came way, way later.

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